Total Transformation Review

In this entry, we’re talking about parents who constantly buy material goods for their children.
Some people might ask what could possibly be wrong with that as long as the parents have the means to do so and are not teaching their kids irresponsible money management by example. In fact, how many parents do you know […]

In the previous entry titled Should Parents Scream, I was examining the idea from the point of view of a communications researcher.
In this entry, I want to focus more on the perspective I got on the subject from going through the official Total Transformation Material.
Lehman explains parental screaming from a psychological point of view. He […]

I have to say that I was surprised to find that screaming is listed among the ineffective parenting roles in the Total Transformation Behavior Program. It’s not that I necessarily thought that screaming was that effective, but just that it seemed insignificant or irrelevant to me.
I remember years ago in a communications class talking about […]

James Lehman and the Total Transformation parents on the CD were talking about the concept of learned helplessness which means that kids (or adults for that matter) actually don’t learn how to do something when someone else constantly does it for them or excuses them from the responsibility of doing something.
Kids eventually interpret this as […]

Negotiations are a skill that many adults have to learn. There are classes one can take, presentations to attend, books to read, etc., all intended to teach us a skill that we have lost somewhere along the way.
That’s right. Kids are born negotiators. I don’t know what happens that causes most people to lose that […]

As I mentioned, the portion I’m currently reviewing is titled Ineffective Parenting Roles. I am phrasing it less delicately by referring to the points made in some upcoming posts as “mistakes parents make.”
Either way, the good news is that if you notice your own parenting style or that of someone you know in these entries, […]

In the first part of this entry, Parent Mind Reading, we talked about parents knowing that other people are judging their parenting skills each time they see them interact with their children in public.
Here’s the interesting thing about that, James Lehman then explains that parents will “perform” for their public audiences. In other words, they […]

As part of the second audio lesson in the Total Transformation System , I heard of a concept that I had not thought of before, but one which makes perfect sense to me.
The presenter talks about the idea of parents doing mind reading…and he is not talking about any feats as might be seen on […]