Total Transformation Review

When I was reviewing the Total Transformation material , there was no more of an emphasis on this one ineffective technique than any other, but since I have seen this mistake and its destructive results, I am putting the emphasis on it myself.
To put it in simple terms, this problem arises when parents tell kids […]

In this entry, we’re talking about parents who constantly buy material goods for their children.
Some people might ask what could possibly be wrong with that as long as the parents have the means to do so and are not teaching their kids irresponsible money management by example. In fact, how many parents do you know […]

In the previous entry titled Should Parents Scream, I was examining the idea from the point of view of a communications researcher.
In this entry, I want to focus more on the perspective I got on the subject from going through the official Total Transformation Material.
Lehman explains parental screaming from a psychological point of view. He […]

I have to say that I was surprised to find that screaming is listed among the ineffective parenting roles in the Total Transformation Behavior Program. It’s not that I necessarily thought that screaming was that effective, but just that it seemed insignificant or irrelevant to me.
I remember years ago in a communications class talking about […]

James Lehman and the Total Transformation parents on the CD were talking about the concept of learned helplessness which means that kids (or adults for that matter) actually don’t learn how to do something when someone else constantly does it for them or excuses them from the responsibility of doing something.
Kids eventually interpret this as […]

Negotiations are a skill that many adults have to learn. There are classes one can take, presentations to attend, books to read, etc., all intended to teach us a skill that we have lost somewhere along the way.
Adults may have to learn (or acutally re-learn) the art of negotiating, but kids are born negotiators. I […]

As I mentioned, the portion I’m currently reviewing is titled Ineffective Parenting Roles. I am phrasing it less delicately by referring to the points made in some upcoming posts as “mistakes parents make.”
Either way, the good news is that if you notice your own parenting style or that of someone you know in these entries, […]

In the first part of this entry, Parent Mind Reading, we talked about parents knowing that other people are judging their parenting skills each time they see them interact with their children in public.
Here’s the interesting thing about that, James Lehman then explains that parents will “perform” for their public audiences. In other words, they […]