Child Attitude

What is it with kids and their attitudes these days? Somehow, at some point in our history, we’ve decided to put up with kids having horrible attitudes. Even worse, we’ve allowed them to manifest those attitudes in behaviors.

You may remember your own parents “threatening to wipe that smirk off your face.” What they were telling you was that they wouldn’t accept the display of your attitude about something you didn’t like. These days, kids and teenagers are not only all too willing to flaunt their negative attitudes, they are also willing to act out behaviorally in accordance with their poor attitudes.

Kids can be taught their feelings about a situation, even a parental disciplinary action, may be their own and nobody has a right to tell them how to feel, but adults do have a right to demand of children and teens that their outward actions and attitudes stay respectful. Most kids today don’t understand this and their parents let them get away with it.

Out Of Control Child

How do you define an out of control child? One who refuses to listen to her parents? Another who throws temper tantrums when a parent attempts to punish him?

To paraphrase a famous saying, “You might not be able to define an out of control kid, but you’ll know one when you see one.” (In fact, I’m pretty sure I saw one in a department store while shopping yesterday, but that’s another story.)

Due to different parenting styles, there are probably different points at which a particular parent may think the child is no longer controllable. That would also mean that observing the behavior of a neighbor’s child or relative’s kid as compared to your own might be interesting. Perhaps you would think someone elses’s kids have crossed the bad be behavioral line or an observer might think your have and you might not even realize it!

Military Schools

How many parents have threatened that if their kids don’t behave properly, they will send them off to military school?

With the access that kids have to information these days via the Internet, they can find out if military schools do indeed exist and what they are like. In fact, a little research shows that there are many military school and boarding school options for parents of teens with behavior problems so indeed the children can confirm that this is a credible threat with undesirable results for them.

Kids today are used to heretofore unimagined amounts of self-directed free leisure time. Military schools, of course, are not big on free time as they offer highly structured environments. That fact alone, would make most kids want to stay away from them. However, that is not to say that those same kids wouldn’t benefit greatly from the structured time and rules-intensive atmosphere of a military school or boarding school.

Why Do Kids Lie

When trying to figure out how to stop kids from lying, parents should first examine the reasons why the behavior is occurring in the first place. Kids and teens lie for a variety of reasons.

1. Kids lie to avoid punishment and getting in trouble for something they’ve done. It is much easier for a teenager to blame the scrape on the side on a hit and run fellow driver in a parking lot than to take responsibility for causing the scrape due to not paying attention while operating the vehicle. Siblings blame a broken toy on each other or on the family dog instead of admitting that they were the ones who broke it.

2. Some kids lie to amuse themselves. Parents often overlook this reason that some children use withholding the truth simply as a way of manipulating adults and watching adults pursue the wrong avenue to solve a problem based on the lie. For example, kids might make up a story just so they can watch the parent’s reaction such as claiming falsely that a sibling got injured playing outside so they can watch the parent frantically run outside for nothing.

3. Another reason children lie is to get what they want. An example of this is a child lying that his or her homework is finished because completed homework means time for video games or outdoor play. Telling the truth would mean the kid would have to do schoolwork when he or she doesn’t want to. Another example that would fall into this category is lying to obtain an item. Kids might tell one parent that the other one said it was ok to have more cookies or to get a new toy from the store.

Although there are other causes for lying kids that would be a good topic for another post, there’s one more that I want to mention here and this is one for parents to really ponder.

4. Some kids lie because they are emulating the same behavior they see their parents exhibiting!